Neither Cowboy or I grew up on a farm or in the country, so this great big, wonderful farmtastic adventure we’re on is just that – an adventure. We were children of the ‘burbs with neatly mowed yards, cul-de-sacs, and sedans.
I’m not entirely sure why we were drawn to the country life, other than the peace and quiet and limitless critter possibilities. (Okay, that one is totally on me.) Truth be told, Cowboy does have what he affectionately calls a people limit, i.e. he prefers to be around as few people as possible as a general rule. (I still often wonder how I got so lucky to be his person. Regardless, I’m grateful.) So I guess all of those things together, combined with the fact that I simply believe God knows where each of us belongs, landed us in the country.
If you knew me back in my high school days, I would have told you I was headed for big city living, a high-power fancy job, and maybe someday I’d get married in my thirties. Holy Batman was I a little wrong. Just a little. The truth is I could not be happier to be wrong. I don’t think any of those things would have brought me the true joy that Cowboy and I now share.
I am one of those people who believes that everything happens for a reason and that God has a grander plan. Now don’t get me wrong, things aren’t always peachy and the reality doesn’t always match the lovely Facebook photos that everyone shares. Heck, I even recently heard that no one shares the B side of their life. (Remember records and tapes?)
We’re all busy posting and sharing and cultivating our images. And honestly, I love seeing everyone’s happy moments and sharing ours, too. But it’s important for us all to remember that real life is messy, sometimes wonderful, and always changing. And often times not what we expected. And that is okay. Truly, it is okay.
Seven years ago this summer we moved into our barndiminium with grand plans of building a house. The house never came, and we still live in our barn apartment and have found real joy in pairing down, focusing on our hobbies, and filling it with critters. (Again, that last one is probably more me.) When folks ask if we like country living, my standard response is, “We wouldn’t trade it. But it is more expensive and more work than we ever imagined.”
What are some of the not so Instagram worthy things on a farm?
- There is always, and I mean always, a long laundry list of things to fix – from horse water troughs to fences. Seriously, what’s with the fences? Guessing 1,000-pound equines are a contributing factor. Who knew?
- You must have a tractor and all of its implements. Cars, schmars. Tractors are where it’s at.
- Critters are crafty and sneaky and smart, which translates to more broken things and more money.
- There is always something to scoop. Cowboy says no more things that poop are allowed on the farm. Guess we are now limited to pet rocks.
- Travel is limited – someone has to watch the zoo.
- Weather – hot, freezing, or monsoon season we are out in it slip sliding away.
Are these things terrible? Absolutely not. They are just part of farm living. Am I complaining? No way. We are grateful and we know lots of other folks who would like to have the chance to give farm life a try. So why share this? To simply say this is not where Cowboy or I thought we would be, but we are grateful it is where we are. It’s not always simple or easy. There’s tons of moments that are not social media worthy or appropriate. But it’s our wonderfully wacky life.
Thanks for letting us share our story with you and for continuing to read and follow along. We hope that no matter where you are, you can find the beauty of the moment and see something you never quite expected.