I got a text from Cowboy last week that said, “Happy National Spouses Day!” To which, I replied, “Who knew!” And my quick-witted better half quickly typed back, “Evidently I did.”
This is just one of the many exchanges we have that just makes me laugh and love him all the more. As I’m sure I’ve covered in past posts, Cowboy is not much of a holiday guy. He’s more of a live-love-laugh-every-day guy.
To be fair, I can pretty well guarantee you that he was not waiting on pins and needles for this day. He simply saw a post about it online and beat me to the punch. He’s also one to poke you in the ribs at 2 a.m. on Christmas morning to wish you Merry Christmas and chuckle that he told you first.
It’s always been this way with us. Laughter is a big part of what makes us tick. And as you can probably tell by the way I write, I think humor is a darned important part of life. I mean seriously, when you live with 16 critters it’s a requirement, not an option.
Which brings me to the fact that we are on the cusp of February – the month of love. You know the holiday I mean – the annual chocolate-rose-love fest known as Valentine’s Day. Let’s face it, this day just requires a little humor.
Back in the early days (I mean like when my age started with the number two early days), I used to have silly expectations about the importance of this occasion. As if a gift or a dinner or moment would feel extra special on this day.
Looking back this just flat out perplexes me, and these times were certainly not my finest hour. The truth is that Cowboy loves me, and has always loved me, every single day. He’s a man of actions, and not so much of words. To prove my point even further, the song that always makes me think of him is the classic country tune, When You Say Nothing at All.
It’s the little everyday things that mean the most. Like when he cares for the horses or washes the car or just knows when I need a hug. He’s truly my better half.
While I’m sure he’ll be oh so delighted to make this appearance on the blog (he may be funny, but he’s also pretty private), I write this to all the gals and fellas out there that are setting themselves up with great expectations during this season of candy hearts and pink balloons. Give your other half a break.
Look for the little things – like the special language only the two of you share. Be grateful for each moment – even if it’s a 5-minute chat as you fold the laundry. Most of all – laugh together. Especially on Valentine’s Day, because seriously it’s a day whose mascot is a chubby baby with a bow and arrow.
P.S. – A version of this post was published in The Glen Rose Reporter under the title of Laugh, Love, and Laugh Some More. This farmgirl is delighted to serve as a community columnist.